Archive | October, 2014

Ko junak objame zmaja

20 Oct

Zakaj se človek odpravi na pot? Razlogov je vedno veliko, toda prava pot je predvsem odziv na notranji klic in s tem brez izjeme junakovo popotovanje … pa če to vemo ali ne.

Vodil sem že kar nekaj delavnic junakovega popotovanja in zdelo se mi je, da mi je o tej temi marsikaj pretežno jasno. Nisem si mogel misliti, da mi bo pot na Nizozemsko prinesla čudovite nove nauke. Vrnil sem se včeraj in zdaj sem globoko hvaležen, da sem se v preteklosti srečal z modrostjo Josepha Campbella in zmorem trezno in mirno sprejemati življenjske prelomnice, o katerih ta modri mož piše in govori.


Klic … in dvom

Že poleti, ko me je prijateljica povabila k somoderiranju delavnic Zmajevega sanjanja na Nizozemskem, sem v sebi zaznal senco dvoma. Skrbelo me je, kako se bova ujela, ko bova na njenem terenu, kjer se bom moral – tako sem slutil – prilagajati daleč čez mejo moje zone udobja. A rekel sem: »Da!« in se trdno odločil, da bo to pač moj veliki preskus osebne zrelosti, iniciacija, preboj.

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Uf, in kako prav sem imel!

Že med pripravo sem čutil veliko nelagodja; način komunikacije mi sploh ni ustrezal, poleg tega sem bil prezaposlen z milijon drugih stvari, vedno znova so me neverjetna naključja prisilila v zamudo ali odpoved sestankov po Skype-u. Napetost je v ozadju tiho naraščala … Continue reading

Denial means denial

18 Oct

Denial is the root of all problems in any group of people, big or small, in any kind of relationship; it is avoidance to see problems – and problems unseen are always problems unsolved, and thus problems ever bigger.
The biggest problem with denial is that it self-replicates. People deny stuff, that’s bad enough; but when they begin denying that they are denying stuff, it gets really messy. And it doesn’t end there. Denial of denial of denial of denial … is a catch 22, a vicious circle – hardly anyone is immune to it. No wonder our society is as fucked up as it is.

Every denial comes with rationalisations, explanations, power games, with trying to convince others of a particular perspective or perception or “truth”. Every denial is based on “knowing” and therefore it comes with deep inner contradictions that aren’t far from schizophrenia. Denial ends in extrovert emotions, in pushing away the imaginary causes of distress, it doesn’t allow introversion and facing the hurtful reality.
When a neutral person comes to face somebody who lives in denial and stands up for a different view than what the other person perceives to be the single acceptable option, they will end up in a clash.
There is no way of reaching people who “know” that they are not in denial. All you can do is see them as who they really are and avoid them for your own good. Bad news is that avoiding people in denial is impossible, they are everyone you know …

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Eureka: autology!

12 Oct

Autonomy means you don’t need to set boundaries. They are obvious.

If you have to set your boundaries, that means you’re not autonomous.

An a-ha, or eureka moment brings clarity in retrospection. That’s the moment when something all of a sudden becomes strikingly self-evident.

The statement on autonomy I came up with is all about deep meaning of words. As I am a logical thinker I like to take the statement a step further …

and refute it! Only to finally invent a new word: autology.

Not that I can really invented that word as it already exists. I am merely adding a meaning to it in correlation with the meaning of autonomy in contemporary English. Continue reading